Ten years ago, I dreamed of starting a business with that helped women become the best versions of themselves. I wanted women to feel more confident, empowered and strong. Most of all, I wanted women to feel sexy and unafraid. A few years later, I realized my dream: I started a pole dancing school.
One thing that nobody ever tells you is that when you create a business for others, you’re often too busy running the business to enjoy its services. As I was helping others feel more confident, as I watched women go from apprehensive and unhappy to confident and fit, I started to lose my confidence. And a pair of cheeky shorts almost derailed me.
I sold cheeky shorts at my business. I refused to wear them. Why? Because I didn’t like the way my body looked in them. They were too cheeky on me. I could see all my flaws, my excess weight. “When I lose a few pounds, and tone up, I’ll wear them” I would tell myself. “I just can’t do that right now – what will my students think?” I’d wonder.
A few weeks later, I was getting ready to order product and realized that we didn’t need to reorder these shorts. That’s when it hit me. I wasn’t selling cheeky shorts because I wasn’t wearing cheeky shorts. By refusing to wear them because my body wasn’t “perfect”, I was, by example telling my customers to do the same thing.
It was a startling – and humbling – realization.
That afternoon, I pulled a pair of cheeky shorts off the shelf and put them on. I was nervous as I stepped out to teach a class and almost ran into the storage room to change. But I took a deep breath and greeted my class. The support was astounding.
My students came up to me and complimented me on how they looked. One woman even went so far as to wish she had my body! I was blown away. And the shorts flew out of the store.
All too often, we unconsciously wait for the “perfect” time to look for a new job, take a big vacation, start a family or business, even try a new restaurant. We wait too long to follow our dreams. And in waiting for the perfect time, we miss out because we could be working toward our dreams right now.
Do you have a dream you’re ignoring? What is your (metaphorical or real) cheeky shorts story? What are you putting off until the perfect time? By waiting, what message are you sending to others?
Whatever it is, I invite you to get up off the couch, don those (metaphorical or real) cheeky shorts, take a deep breath and go. I’ll be here to encourage you, and I guarantee your actions will inspire others.