After selling my brick and mortar business, I decided I wanted to write. I was going to write a book. I knew what I wanted to do next.
Fast forward: three years later and no book. Instead, I applied to jobs. I took on freelance consulting work. I did everything but write a book. I talked about writing a book. I would write passages and outlines. I wrote blog posts. I never shared any of my blogs and I never wrote a book.
Intimidation for one thing. I mean, writing a whole book? That’s tough. I read a lot of books and I can’t imagine how I can write something that ties together to tell a story. I would try for a while – some of what I wrote was good, other stuff could give watching paint dry a run for entertainment value. What if I failed? Even though I said I wanted to do this, I never went for it.
The biggest reason I didn’t write – not seriously – is that I believed what others were telling me. “That’s not a real job.” “You can’t do that full time.” “Your story line is too narrow, not enough people will want to read it.” “That’s not what people do!”
You know what the worst part is? I’ve agreed with these arguments. I’ve made some of these arguments. I didn’t want to do this because that’s “not what I should do”. And I let it derail me.
This isn’t the first time I’ve heard these arguments. When I announced that I was going to leave the energy industry to start a fitness business that specialized in pole dancing, I got a lot of push-back. “The market is too small.” “You can’t make money doing that.” “I wouldn’t take those classes.” “You don’t know anything about that business.” I didn’t let it stop me. Seven years and three owners later, the legacy continues.
Why am I so willing to let it slip now? Why am I willing to let others dictate what I “should” do? Shouldn’t living my life the way I think is best be what I “should” do?
It’s time to do what I want to do. And the only one who can make that decision is me. Maybe my path won’t be direct, and I’m sure I’ll run into some (more) bumps along the way, but I’ll be doing what I should do.
Is there something you want to do but you’re holding back because of what you think you should do? Share in the comments – let’s inspire one another!