Sometimes, the best traditions start by accident.
Every year, my husband and I have use New Years’ Day (or somewhere in that last year/first year blur) to outline our goals for the new year. What started out as the standard, non-specific “goals” (I want to lose weight, get in shape, find a job and/or start a business, etc.) has evolved over the years. In addition to setting more specific goals, we’ve realized that each year has an overall theme that can be summarized in a word or phrase.
In 2018, the word was “focus”. We set our individual goals and scheduled monthly accountability meetings to keep us on track. We met, shared our progress, patted each other on the back and set some tasks for the following month. (Tasks, not goals. We didn’t want to work that hard.) We repeated this process each month and at the end of the year – I’ll only speak for me – I had accomplished some things, quit others when life got too tough and felt that sense of disappointment that I was basically in the same place at the end of the year. I vowed to do better.
Fast forward to January 1, 2019. Once again, we set our individual goals. We were more specific this time. We started off with accountability meetings, but quickly abandoned them when something – anything – more interesting would come along. But that was OK, I thought because I was crushing my goals. But something was still off. The theme for the year was – nothing.
At the beginning of December, a stupid mistake (made by me) ballooned into an epic battle and ended in the realization that we were not operating as a team. While we were busy “setting and getting” his goals and my goals, we forgot about our goals.
So on January 1st of this year, we dedicated the day to planning our next year and beyond. We set individual goals and couple goals, and we’ve shared them with one another. We committed to doing big things this year. And that’s when our theme emerged: commit. We had been holding back on crushing the goals we said we wanted to accomplish because “something could happen”. To quote a friend of mine, “I could be the next President of the United States. It could happen, but I wouldn’t base my life on it.”
So this year, we’ve set some pretty lofty goals. And we’re leaning in and going for broke. Because life is just too short to live waiting for something to happen.
Happy New Year!
What’s your theme for this year? Have you set goals? Please share!